Because people love to tear others apart... A good read and true.
Happy people want other people to be happy. Unhappy people cannot stand happy people, so they do what they can to make them unhappy. Most do this unconsciously but there are some who intentionally want to hurt another. Basically, we inflict on people what we feel about ourselves and life. It is that simple.
So when someone tries to bring me down, I try to see why are they doing that to me. Please know that there is such a thing as constructive criticism and usually it is obvious when criticism is constructive because of what is being said and how it is being said. However, when someone is just being cruel for cruelty’s sake, it is wise to try not to let it affect you. See it for what it is - the person is so unhappy, they want you to join in their misery.
There may be a desire to argue or try to correct the other person who is being unkind but that rarely accomplishes anything. It only leads to more drama which is exactly what the ego of the other person craves. The ego thrives on drama. The more drama the better…according to the ego. So the best thing you can do in such a situation is to not take it personally. You can overcome the insults by simply not being insulted. Silence is a powerful form of communication and sometimes when someone is cruel, silence enables their insult to bounce back to them more quickly. You know how a mischievous little child tries to get some one’s attention by doing all kinds of funny things…if you don’t give it any attention, it will soon find someone else to bother.
I do realize that all of this is easier said than done. I still sometimes get upset when someone else tries to bring me down. No one is perfect. However, my recovery time (meaning the time it takes for me to get over the insult) is much faster than it used to be.
Just try to always remember that what we see in others, is a reflection of what we feel about ourselves. Anytime you judge another, you are judging yourself. So the next time someone tries to bring you down, realize that what they are saying has nothing to do with you.
s.o.t.d.
Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles,
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